Lets start with the guys, you need to pay attention and listen! There are so many times that I have watched guys listen to the girl and with-in thirty seconds you can see that their eyes have glazed over and began daydreaming! I am so guilty of this! Its been a long day and I go chill with the girlfriend and she starts talking and before I know it, she asks me what I think and I have no idea what I think because I didn't hear a thing she said! For whatever reason, guys just do not listen to their women. Maybe its society and their influence on guys, or its peer pressure, maybe its just not cool to listen. Whatever the reason is, guys are not good at it.
Yes it does make it hard that women speak over 3x more then men which means we have to try 3x as hard to listen. Guys talking to guys can have a whole conversation with a grunt and a hug and guys are good, no listening really needed. But women need to be heard and then shown that you have paid ATTENTION! So listening takes a little more effort, but its so worth it. You will quickly find yourself more interested in her and what she has been up too. Then she sees you paying more attention to her and in turn do the same for you. So guys, take the extra time and listen...its worth it!
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