True Love

Movies and relationships, two thing that should never mix. We all watch movies to enjoy the escape from reality and the adventure, action, love, heartache, joy that movies can bring us. I will have to say I love movies, a good action movie is always a good choice to past the time. I also love watching a good love story. Everyone loves to watch them fall in love in many magical ways. Like the movie "P.S. I love you" and "Dear John" Both these movies are wonderful and show what I believe to be true love, not this fake stuff. "P.S. I love you" shows a husband that dies and through gifts and letters he wrote before his death, help his wife to get through losing him and onto a new healthy relationship.

"Dear John" is a army recruit that falls in love with a beautiful women and stays true to his word to come back for her in four years after his deployment in Iraq. Well is third year in, the gal sends him a "dear john" letter and its over. His heart is broken but through love, he lets her do what she needs to do. A handful of years later, they cross paths again and the love that was once there is rekindled and they get back together.

These kind of movies are far and few because they show how hard love can really be. Love does not mean that things will always go right, just the opposite really. Love is patient, kind, it does not judge, and the list goes on. Read 1 Corinthians 13, for the true definition on love.

You know all those disney movies, that the "street rat" or local gal always get the prince and princess of their dreams. Well I hate to break it to you but it does not always workout like that. Your prince or princess maybe just the opposite of what society has made you to think they will be like. Sometimes you have to stop looking through "society glasses" and open your eyes and see the things that really matter 10, 25, 50 years down the road. Remember when you find that right person, and you walk into your happily ever after, real life starts and a whole new story will unfold.

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New Horizon

Guys, its time to let go of those old relationships! Just about everyone has dated more than one gal, and just about everyone has had a bad relationship, bad break-up, and a lot of bad memories. I have dated a handful of women, and I can tell you...you better let the old stuff go or it's going to make the next relationship hell.

There is so much you can take from the old relationship but the things that really hurt you, learn from it and move on. Sometimes you make bad choices, learn from those choices! I can tell you that I have learned the most about myself during a bad relationship, then when everything is going great. The thing I really like to do after a break-up is think of all the good times I had and remember the things I really liked about the gal. Then remember the things I did not like, and take all of these things and put them on my "list" ;)

Old Relationships are great lessons and are worth learning, and wounds do heal. Remember that new relationships are brand new. Do not start a relationship with all the old memories in mind. If you start with the old, you are not ready to start. Each relationship needs a new start, and a new mind set. Enjoy them and enjoy all the relationships you have in your life. They all will teach you something that will change your life.

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The Right Women for you???

Part 2: How to treat your Mommy

The relationship that you have with your Mom is a future picture of how you will treat your friend girls, girlfriends, and future wife. Your Mom is the one you watch as you grow up. You learn how to respond to things by watching your mom. On top of being your parent, she is teaching you how to act around the opposite sex. So pay attention to how you talk, act, and behave around her. If you snap at her, most likely you will snap at the special gal in your life. If you treat your mother with love and respect, you will do the same to the women in your life. I know this is not always the case but your mom is where it starts. Pay attention to your mom! And ladies all this applies to you as well. The only difference is that you watch your father and he is the one teaching you how to treat boys. So be aware of the way you treat your parents, it may show you something that will save your relationship in the future.

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The right women for you???

Part 1: The List

How to pick the right one??? I have seen and heard guys ask this question all the time and if they have not asked it, they are thinking it. And to be straight up honest...I have no idea how to pick the right one because I have not found the right one...yet! So instead of looking for the right one, guys should look for qualities that are in a good wife. There is a beautiful list of qualities in Proverbs 31: 10-31. For all those who don't care for what Bible says, take a chance and see that the Bible actually has some really good relationship advice, better then I could ever give.

The thing I have come to realize is that the list we men have made in our head for the "perfect wife" is not the greatest of lists. Because a lot of those things on that list focus on what we want and not things that are realistic. For example, Guys want a girl with a good "body", ok fine...boobs and a butt and that's fine but guess what guys?! Those superficial looks will be old and saggy one day. So instead of looking at who has the nicest "body," focus on the personality. The boobs may sag but the personality will only get richer with time.

This list we have created comes from many different things. I know my list has things on it that I have picked up from my wonderful mother. My amazing mother takes care of a 6 people in this zoo of a household and through her busy day, she always finds time to put food on the table for all of us. Food is a pathway right to a guy's heart, so this immediately went on my list. "My gal must cook for me!" This is just an example of how something gets on "the list." For negative things, it works the same way. I dated some one that was not athletic and I realized that I am way too athletic to not have someone to play sports with. So "must be athletic" went on the list.

These are all examples of the lists we make in our head. Some things on it are really good and some things are just plain stupid. You have to remember your motives behind why you created the list. Having a list is a good thing, I am not saying not to have one...but realize that they can cause more harm then good. Just because she does not have 2 and 6 on the list does not mean that 7 and 39 won't make up for it. Focus on the things that will truly last, it will be worth it in the end. When you are sitting on your porch with your faithful dog sitting next to you and your wife with her cat on her lap, both are reading the paper and then take the time to gaze at the beautiful sunset together. These are the times that show you that items 7 and 39 are way more important then 2 and 6.

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