Have you ever had a wonderful boyfriend or a real good guy friend that could fix anything. He would come over and fix the leaky pipes, he would be more than willing to help your parents out with weekend projects and odd jobs around your house. Guys like this are so awesome to have around, they can fix anything. And in all honesty its in a guys wiring to fix problems that are set before him. But then you go to him with a personal problem and guess what, he tries to fix it! You did not want him to fix it, you just wanted someone to listen to you...no more.
Ok Guys, this is were it gets tough being the boyfriend or good friend. When gals come to you with tough personal stuff they don't always want you to fix it, they just may want you to listen to them and thats all. When guys have a problem, we like to fix it right away. We do not want to talk about it or draw it out...fix it and get it over with, we are wired this way. Gals on the other hand, for some reason...do not always work this way. I really do not have a clue why and I'm not going to try and figure it out. All I can say with my experience is that if they come to you with a problem, be there for them and just listen. Don't offer advice or attempt to help them through it unless they want your help, and this would be an alright time to ask if they would be ok with your help. Remember just be there, provide a shoulder if need be, and just listen to them...the solution will take care of itself with time.
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